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Real Life Dating Etiquette: The Basics
Sex is not an appropriate topic of discussion. No matter how your date brings it up, refuse to discuss it on the first date. There will be plenty of time for that later.
Don't show off. This is surprisingly important. If you have a fantastic job, a great car, a hefty bank account, and an estate in the Bahamas, good for you. But that doesn't mean you have to shove it in your date's face. Drive your nice car, go to a nice place, but the discussion of money is taboo. Instead, talk about her (or him), yourself, and the movie you saw together. Your first date is all about you and your date, personally. There's time later, a month or so in, for the surprise date in Paris.
Listen to the other person as much as you talk. If you hog all the conversation time, you're a bore, no matter what sex you are. If you're nervous about it, write down a list of questions you want to ask and MEMORIZE them. You can sneak peeks in the bathroom if you must, but that's it. When the conversation lags, don't start talking about yourself; instead, ask questions about your date. This will keep things moving along beautifully.
Don't get drunk. Drunkenness is fine for your friends, but you shouldn't exceed a glass of wine with dinner and maybe another drink later. You're not going out to party on a first date; you're going out to get to know one another. Showing your date that you're a drunken fool is not the best way to set that first impression.
Look your best – this shows respect for your date. A surprising number of people think a casual date means flip-flops with dirty toes and not shaving. Wrong! Even if it's a beach date, you should take pains to look as good as you possibly can.
The guy should assume he's paying. The worst way in the world to end your date is with an argument about money. This may not seem fair to guys, but life isn't always about being fair. Look at it like this, if you must: biologically, a date is kind of an interview to determine whether you're going to be able to support a family. I don't care how enlightened men and women get, it will always be about that. If the guy starts arguing about money right away, that is generally a sign to the girl that she should stay the heck away from him if she's looking for a future.
And ladies, if he wants to pay and insists more than once, let him do it. This is often an ego thing for a man; they want to show you that they can take care of you. It does not imply that you must have sex with him later, it is only a courtesy.
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