Dating Advice for Women

Dating Advice for Women

The first most important rule is to relax and be you.

Clothes

Where something you feel comfortable in, but make an effort i.e. don't wear a short skirt that you are going pulling at to be sure everything is covered. Dress for the occasion. If you're going to the pub, don't wear the slutty black number. Low cut tops are good but not for the first date. You want them to see more of you.

Underwear

Though getting naked on a first date is not advised, make sure you wear sexy matching underwear that will make you ooze confidence. Cathedral pants (big and holy) are a good incentive not to put out on the first date but they won't make you feel confident and attractive. You might just get taken up in the spirit of the occasion after all.

Conversation

Don't talk about ex-boyfriends, you need to focus on your future with this bloke and not your past partners. Don’t bitterly end up crying that all men are pigs. This one might actually be nice, honestly. Avoid talking about yourself too much and ask questions, without interrogating him and listen attentively even if bored. After all he might be just shy and affected.

Common Interests

Try to establish a common interest early on, so you can both talk with equal enthusiasm about it e.g. a country you've both visited or a hobby. Steer clear of talking about shared diseases, other than an icebreaker about a recent cold.

Body language

It's important to look and feel comfortable. Don't fold your arms, keep eye contact and lean in towards your date. Try and make subtle physical contact, for example, touch his arm if he says something sad or amusing. Touching his leg is not subtle.

Eating

If you are eating out, choose your food carefully. Don't eat so much that you feel uncomfortable, and don't eat like a sparrow. Messy food like Spaghetti Bolognese is a no no. Garlic, onions or other smelly foods are not a good idea unless he's having them.

Mobile Phones

Make sure your mobile phone is turned off. To send/receive text messages or calls appears rude. He needs to feel that he has your undivided attention. (The phone is handy however if the date is not going at all well. Nip to the loo and get a friend to call you when you're back at the table with a get away excuse – you wouldn't be the first to do this.) Don't take pics of him, send them to friends and then read out their replies to him.

Drinking

Don't get too drunk. Have a few drinks so you are sociable and more laid back but do not drink in excess. Drinking before the date can give you extra confidence but don't have too many otherwise he'll think you're a major lightweight when you're falling off your chair after one glass of wine.

End of the Date

At the end of the date, it's important to leave him wanting more. Sex on the first date is never a good idea. If the mood takes you there's nothing wrong with a quick snog, after all a man's kissing technique is a great indication of what he'll be like in the sack'

Choosing an Agency

Isn't dating supposed to be fun? Finding love isn't meant to be a headache!

Fax machines, e-mail, fast-food, low-cost air fares - practically everything in life is designed to make your life easier and more enjoyable.

So why not finding the right partner?

That's why more and more people are choosing dating agencies to meet new people, have fun, make friends and find love. But with so many dating agencies out there, how can you make sure you choose the right one?

Well, here's the answer. Just follow our simple guide!

Size IS everything

When it comes to choosing the right dating agency – the bigger the better. It's a simple calculation – if they have thousands of people on their site – you stand more chance of meeting that special someone.

Check that the site you are looking at actually has the thousands of ACTIVE profiles not just loads and loads of free triallists clogging up the system. Lots of Internet sites offer free joining and so have loads of apparent members but not that many actually have that many paying and therefore contactable customers.

Experience

Choose an agency that has lots of experience and success at finding partners. So many of the new online agencies just come and go. Choose one that has a good brand and a track record. Most people tire of online agencies because of the lack of real people, choose one with a track record as that means they have real people on there.

Did you know?

More people are using dating agencies than ever before.

In the UK – there are few regulations. In fact, anyone can start a dating agency – no licenses or statutory checks are required

TIP: Check out which the largest and most established agencies are – this will always be a good place to start. There'll be a reason why they have lasted so long and have large active databases.

You get what you pay for. If there's a fair price involved, there's a chance you should be able to expect a better service, better chances of meeting people and a better experience. Pay peanuts to a dating agency and you might get monkeys – literally!

Good luck - and may you find life, love and happiness

Image

Presenting a good image is a tricky business. Get it right, and you'll be a sexual magnet. Get it wrong, and it's lonely Saturday nights in front of the telly! Don't fret though, the image gurus at Dateline have a few simple but effective image secrets, to bring out the love monster in you and get heads turning!

Rule 1. First impressions last!

For some reason, most people are under the illusion that ignoring someone or giving them a blank look creates interest. Not in our experience. When you first meet your date, SMILE! Don't go overboard and leave them thinking your some kind of lunatic with a smiling disorder, but if someone takes your fancy, throw them a quick smile. There's a very good chance they'll smile back, and that's your cue for action.

The fact that very few people find this easy is good news for you. It means you've got less competition. So work up the courage, get bold and greet them with your pearly whites.

Rule 2. Don't over engage your brain!

When you first meet, don't think about things too hard. Don't worry. And don't panic. You'll make yourself all sweaty palmed and end up saying something that comes into your head babbling nervous rubbish. Every one loves a compliment, so stroke their ego. Make sure it's genuine though; there's a fine line between a compliment and a cheesy come-on.

Rule 3. Keep your wits about you!

Behave yourself. Once you've got a decent conversation going, be confident and be aware of your and their body language. Stay relaxed, be open, don't fidget and don't come on too heavy. Pick up the vibe and go with it.

Rule 4. Look good - feel good!

Dress to impress but don't scare them. They've already taken an interest in you; so don't turn up looking like someone else. Look good, but feel comfortable.

If you're in need of some help, use our quick guide:

GUYS

Do's:

Nice shirt, no big collars

Neutral shade trousers

Shoes

Plain socks

Jacket

Pullovers

Don'ts:

Dressing like John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever

Cardigans of any kind

Cartoon socks

Ties with Homer Simpson on (its just not funny)

TOP TIP:

Look smart. Avoid jeans, T-shirts and anything that may double as clothing for gardening, decorating or asbestos disposal.

GIRLS

Do's:

Blouses

Skirts

Tights / stockings

Glamorous coats

Heels / boots

Accessories

Don’ts:

Anoraks

Hiking boots

Iron Maiden T-shirts

‘Waisty’ big pants

Leg warmers

Hanging on to them.

You've had a couple of dates; all's been going well, so now you've got to hang on to them. Don't let yourself go. Don't start wearing your skanky old t-shirts, smelly trainers or wiping on your slippers when they come round to visit. Have some pride and keep them interested.

Bringing them back to your place

So it's going well. Once you're in that 'come back to my place' scenario, make sure it won't be the only time they come back. Always have a couple of good quality glasses stashed away somewhere your flatmates can't find. And make sure they're clean.

Also have a good quality bottle of wine locked up somewhere safe to help the evening flow (Keep this well hidden from flatmates.)

Guys:

Keep that bedroom clean. A room littered with dirty socks, blokey magazines and dust will not turn her on in the slightest. And if it's going particularly well, make sure your sheets are clean. It might seem strange, but women happen to like clean bed linen.

TOP TIP:

Learn to cook: No-one can resist a good home-cooked meal. You don't have to go mad with it, but getting a couple of good cook books or doing a short cooking course will do wonders for your image.

Look knowledgeable. Do your research and keep a diary of the best restaurants and bars in town. Take them out for impressive meals, cool bars and the latest clubs. And keep doing it. How could they possibly turn you down?

Show them you're spontaneous. Do something neither of you have ever done before. Get dirty with some mountain biking, try rock climbing, and spend the weekend at a music festival. Just have fun.

Get to work on that image, and good luck.

Girls:

Your average man fears an extremely girly bedroom.

Strike a balance. Hide 60% of your cuddly toys. Hide pictures of ex-boyfriends, David Beckham and anything that’s too pink, lacy girly or appealing to the female 1- 12 age group.

Also hide Tiffany CD's, collections of plastic Smurfs, Barbies and dolls of all kinds.

TOP TIP:

Subdue the lighting. This makes everything look softer and hence more romantic.

What is love?

It's an old clich, but love really does sneak up when you're least expecting it. Having said that, we seem to spend most our waking single lives searching for the damn thing. It's something we obviously need, but it's not a matter of life and death so, take it easy, have fun, and see what happens. When you do stumble across love, here are a few tips on how to cope with that precious little four-letter word.

When you know you've been bitten.

A classic symptom is not being able to concentrate on your work. There isn't a lot you can do about this. Just ride with it and hope that the boss has been there too and is will be a little sympathetic towards your love-struck state.

You'll feel compelled to twist every conversation you have around to your new love interest. I know it's tempting, but it will drive your mates mad, so try to refrain, at least a little bit.

Corny love songs you've previously found repulsive will suddenly draw you in and you'll want to listen to them all the time. Again, think abut the poor people around you. Be considerate.

Don't forget your friends. It's tempting to hibernate in your bedroom for six months with your new partner, but people will worry if they don't hear from you for weeks on end. Hang onto your mates. You'll need them if it all turns pair shaped. Speaking of which...

How to cope if it falls apart.

Music is the ultimate healer, so go out and buy some 'break-up' music and wallow in a little bit of self-pity. But don't do it for too long. You've got to get back out there.

Eat chocolate. It's the ultimate comfort food. Indulge yourself.

Call up those mates that you wisely kept in touch with. Go out and get drunk pour your heart out to them. Again, don't do this for too long. We don't want you ending up in rehab.

How'd you pull your last partner? If you did it once, you can do it again. Get out there and start pulling!

Kissing

Kissing is probably the most physically romantic two people can get. There really is no wrong way to kiss. The thing to remember is that everybody kisses differently and different people prefer different ways of kissing. Some people, believe it or not, are appalled at the idea of French Kissing or using your tongue while you kiss. While others can't imagine kissing without using your tongue. The thing is to try kissing that person a few times before deciding how you and your partner prefer kissing and to get used to the way that person kisses.

Kissing Tips

Relax

Move gently to your partner and put your arms around them.

Move your mouth towards them and your lips meet, keep them slightly parted and press gently against their lips. Move your head a little to the side, so your nose won't get in the way.

What you do next depends on their reaction. If they respond then carry on kissing if you sense no active response then move your lips apart slowly and gently let go of your partner and look into their eyes.

If you feel that the signals are right then again gently start to kiss your partner and if they respond then you can begin to kiss a little more passionately.

The golden rule is to be gentle and try to read your partners feelings.

If either of you wears glasses, just take them off if you wish before kissing.

If either partner wears braces, the important thing is not to press too hard against their lips.

A sure way to ruin a kiss is with bad breath use mints or similar beforehand.

A non-smoker may not enjoy kissing a smoker, use mints as above.

... More kissing tips techniques - Can you "catch something" by kissing? Yes anything from a cold to a serious sexually transmitted disease. Kissing is not 100% safe so if you are concerned or worried ask your partner if they are ill and don't kiss them if you do not feel safe.

French Kissing Tips

A French kiss are kisses in which you use your tongues.

Relax!

Put your arms around the person you want to kiss.

Begin with a slow kiss; you can close your eyes if you wish.

Slowly and gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other person's mouth open using your tongue.

Gently, move your tongue inside the other person's mouth and touch their tongue.

If your partner seems tense or start to slowly pull away, stop what you are doing.

If they open their mouth more or otherwise indicate they like the kiss, keep on doing what you have been only with a little more passion.

As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don't forget to swallow.

Keep your tongue relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), as you don't want the kiss to turn wet and messy.

Do not get over forceful - be gentle.

If one of you have braces you can still French kiss, you just have to be more careful and not as forceful when things get passionate.